Feedback Thoughts

 I feel like with our school system as you mentioned we are so focused on how grades determine us and that limits us to trying out new things. I feel like I can even personally agree with this because when I am used to receiving the same good grades for doing the same things I have always done, it makes me not want to try new things for fear of getting a bad grade. This is a sad way to think but I feel like we have been trained to think like this since a very young age. After looking at the articles you have provided there were two in particular that caught my attention: Why it's so hard to Hear Negative Feedback and Why Rejection Hurts so Much. These both simply caught me by the titles and I really found them to apply to me and I wanted to hear what each author had to say. After reading the first article I really liked how the author phrased that we are so scared of negative feedback because we are scared to hear ways to better ourselves. This is mindblowing because I'm pretty sure most of us don't think of it in this way, but sadly that is the truth. I also liked how the author mentioned that to make it easier in hearing negative feedback we need to understand whether we are the ones giving it or receiving it, it should be done with good intention. Another point that I liked was made as we are not only judged on our mistakes but also the way we handle the negative feedback and that shows your character and I thought that was very powerful and great advice. When reading the second article started off with a powerful sentence that we experience rejection everywhere and every day and no matter how big or small it hurts more than expected. This blew me away because it is so accurate. I learned that it has been proven that the same part of our brain when rejected and physical pain is activated. A good lesson that I learned from this article is that normally after rejection we self inflict negativity on ourselves which is a very unhealthy way to cope. I learned that we should train ourselves to never tolerate self-criticism and rather better ourselves rather than tearing down. Overall, I really enjoyed both articles and feel like I learned a lot about how to approach and deal with negative feedback/rejection.

(Difficult things are not impossible meme)